53 veiws and no one has anything to say to me? Nothing at all? I understand that replies take time and not everyone will have an answer but I still can't belive that no one has anything advice to offer me.

I am very disapointed with this forum.I haven't found anything that I need from it at all.Is this b/c the message board isn't very busy?

The main part of the info page is very good though.Maybe I should just stay there and look for another forum.Anyone know of one?

Hi

I lived in Korea for six months and there is a difference in culture, and it is also a fact that Korean girls are less on their own as people over here. What could be helpfull, at least to get an idea on how Korean people think, is the book Korea unmasked. It looks like a comic but it explains the background of the Korean people.
Hope it helped a little bit
Friendly greetings
Anita

Thanks for the book sugestion! I'll have a look for it soon!!

If she was another Canadian like me,then I'd have no problem telling her to get her act together or get out.I really think the problems are in part b/c our cultures are diferent.

I don't think it's her being lazy.I really think it's b/c she just doesn't know how to clean or how to do certain things.I also think that she lacks common sence/common courtesy when it comes to certain things.(she threw up on the toilete and didn't clean it up,then left to spend the night at a friends)

I know I need a little more info about Korean culture and the way women are there and how to approach her on certain things and not offend her or her culture.That's why I am hear asking on this board.I'm asking people who know more about the culture then I do and maybe have seent he same thing.

I'd had about enough today when I realized that she did not sweep the floor as I'd asked her to,though she told me she had.The 2nd chore I asked her to do this month.

So we sat down and had a cup of tea and a long chat.

I explained that I was frustrated and didn't understand some things in her culture and I wanted her help with that.I all ready understand that most Korean parents do all the household chores and cooking for them.

I explained that in Canada that doesn't work and by not doing the chores properly it will only frustrate me (I told her to look that word up) and get me angry if I had to do all of the cleaning in the house.After asking her if she wanted to learn the right way to clean I said I'd teach her to clean the bathroom tomorow.

After the micro wave thing happend I explained about the dangers of tim/metal and fires and asked if she needed me to post a reminder.So I did.

It was recomended to me to type up spme basic kitchen saftey and cleaning instructions as well and hang them up.I don't really want to though.I'll feel like the B*tch from Canada if I did.

Do I really need to get cross with her and show anger when she does something dangerous or plain stupid? I all ready feel bad for telling her I wasn't happy with way she swept and cleaned the bathroom.I had to though of course,cuz it wasn't at all clean by any standards.

How "tough" do I have to be with her so that she really gets what needs to happen here? I don't want to scare her away. I want her experience in my home to be a nice one.

I am feeling a little bad telling her that some of what she does to be "cute" is not so cute and that some people would laugh at her and actually call her stupid if they saw her that way.(I'm not talking about giggling here)

Thank you James!

I was a little shocked by the tin foil thing,since I had told her  when she moved in not to put that in the micro wave along with any other metal.Other things to I've told her not to do and 2 minutes later I come back in the room and she has out something with food on it into the recycle bins,saying she forgot what I'd just said.

I feel that she is to young to be away from her parents and they should have prepared her a little bit more before she came.I know they don't really do that in Korea though.So it's my "job" and I'm not up for it.I don't have the patience some days.

I talked with my former boss the other day who spent 2 years in Korea. She advised me to sit down and make things very clear with my roomate. Another friend told me she may think of me as her mother while she is here with me and expect me to do things for her,but she has told me she sees me as her sister.

I sometimes feel very bad though,like I'm the "boss" of her when I tell her what to do for chores or how to do things and get on her case about things.I feel I need to though or she won't do them.

Yes,Jess she is that way too.When I ask if she did something she says "yes" even though I know she didn't.So I think well maybe she doesn't know what I mean or think she is lieing,but why would she lie to me?

Yesterday I took her into the bathroom with me and taught her to clean the bathroom and she cleaned 1/2 of it on her own.I taught her about soapscum and "elbow grease"! I think she got it! She didn't seem to enjoy it at all,but hey I don't like cleaning the bathroom each week either so she has to do it at least 2x a month also! LOL She really had a funny look on her face! It kinda looked like I was punishing her when she had to get down on her hands and knees to srcub.

Then I showed her how to make some pasta sauce,you know the kind that is a powder that you mix with milk and butter? She wanted to make it in a bowl and not heat it. I explained why it wouldn't taste good if she did it that way and I think she was happy with the way it turned out.

hiyo.
I read your story just stop by here, and i think i can give you some adivice. 'cause i've
lived in korea for 26 years, that means, you know i'm korean, male. i known this site from
the article in domestic newspaper just few minute ago.

the girl who is living in your place is 20 years. but she's knid of childish. emmm..
i think you are so patient and kind, and i even feel some ashame she is korean.
but there's something u must know that. even she is 20, meybe univ student now, she is not quite
mature woman in my place. most of them depends upon their parent till high school aged 18
or 19. that means she has experienced only 1 year in the society. maybe she never cleaned
bath by herself, she never cooked by herslef except making ramen. but regarding everything
these stuff, she's so childish. can u ask her? maybe she is the only child or have elder sister,
or elder brother which makes lack of responsibilty.
 the problems between u and baby girl are brought from she's lack of experience. that means
she is not idiot, bozo, stupid. maybe just go there for leaning english, not for cleaning the room
or other things. she only thinks what she wants. it looks kind of selfish, but she doesn't know.
so.. i think, but u already did, teach her. she's so childsh, easy to depend on other people, pretend someone help her like in korea. if her behavor doesn't change at all, u need get her
out of ur place. she needs to know that of someone live alone, by herself, there's something
have to do whatsoever she like it or not.

 and say always 'yes' even she doesn't urdenstand. that is korean culture. it's truly diffenrent from
western. 'cause i did that also when i travled in foreign country. we've learned this one from a baby.
the 'yes girl', maybe she doesnt understand what you are saying exactly. u don't have to have a
angry about this. that is our kind of nature.
 it could be a good experience to make an asian friend, or bad one. i hope u two have a pleasant
roomates days. if ur annoying keep going, i've told u, just let her out. she needs to
taste bitter of society(sort of korean idiom). kuh kuh ^^;

OOps gone over the limit:

When did I say ALL Koreans?

Sorry, if that is the way it was understood. My use of the word 'grown-up' was bad.

It is just very hard to see how people you thought you know well will turn round and say silly things: like for example 'left-handed people are dumb' and will not accept even gentle persuading of the contrary.

That is part of what I meant by 'not grown-up'.

Anyway, I will be visiting James' website which I like very much, by the way - looking forward to heated debates!